Relationships (Need & No Need)
Why there is need to be in a relationship? For most of us, relationship with another is based on the dependence, either economic or psychological. This dependence creates fear, breeds-in us possessiveness, results in friction, suspicion, frustration. (At some point or other)

Economic dependence on another can perhaps be eliminated through proper planning, but I am referring especially to that psychological dependence on another, which is the outcome of need for personal satisfaction, happiness and so on.
We feel a sort of completeness with our partner. In order not to lose this source of completeness, one fears the loss of the other, and so possessive fears come into being with all their resulting problems. This conscious or unconscious fear leads to search for security through various channels. Though one is dependent on another, there is yet the desire to be free. The complex question/problem in relationship is how to love without being dependent, without friction and conflict.

Mentalmaska thought – Is it possible to have relationship without this friction and conflicts? Life cannot be without relationship. Can one love other and at the same time not be possessive? To have a good relationship isn’t it necessary for both to change?

Apparently two people, man and woman, cannot live together without conflict, without pain without sense of inequality. Why? There may be multiple causes: temperament, values, beliefs, ambitions etc. probably more than this list.
For me the answer to this question is punch line of Hero Honda “fill it, shut it, forget it”. In other words, just stop thinking and live the life. Aren’t we doing the same?
What u think !!!!!........any taker 

Friendship, Companionship, Love & Sex (Four Idiots)

Please, start with a smile!!! I have selected this topic as I have personally been encountering these four idiots since last few years. There is a lot that we all know (or claim to know), feel and understand about our F.C.L.S. but confused at the same time. I am not going to define or explain any of these so called important feelings here, however just want to raise few mentalmaska thoughts that have always come in my mind and hopefully we all have come across with them at some point of time or other.

Sacrosanct Hypothesis# there is no doubt that we all need these four in our life in what ever order God blesses us.

Can anyone give weights or priorities these four in any manner or order? I don’t think it’s possible. It was always told, written and believed that girls being more emotional (well never proved) try to find and stick with someone who can deliver (sometime its tuff for guys to deliver after a hectic day schedule!! Got it) all the four in ONE MAN and boys on the other hand don’t mind MUCH in finding all four in four different people (if they are lucky enough) or in one. There must be some truth in this…Anyway, why I am writing this page is coz I have met many souls (including myself) who have been fighting to discover and come out with a clear idea of what is right and what is wrong!!!!

It goes without saying that one need opposite sex but do we are loosing that trust, that faith that we planned/imagined at some point of time read in a book or heard from our parents/movies etc!!! That so called ideology hoping everything would be fine. At this point of time everyone around me is either getting married or planning to get married very soon. Why all of a sudden this requirement came??? If we talk about 40-50 years old society the need was felt much earlier (say 20-23 years of age). Now this is perfectly ok for even a girl to get married in 27-28 years of age and if you see WESTERN countries the society is even ok for non-marriage or late marriages.

The idea that I really want to highlight here it’s not FCLS that is driving the concept of marriage. The need for marriage as envisaged earlier by the parents or society was to get a person who can fulfill all your FCLS need at one place. People want to get married – just read few lines that some people have told me –
• “Yaar abhi kitta bhi kaaam kar lo kitna bhi ghum lo per…kuch akelapaan lagta hai… koi to ho jo baat kare….soch raha hoon shadi kar loon!!!
• Samir tuu to Mumbai me hai, wo bhi akele.. koi dekhne wala nai bolne wala nai…Hum log to mom dad ke sath rahte hai….Disciplined life…ab time to milta nai business hour ke baad… to soch raha hoon shadi kar hee leta hoon!!!!
• Shadi karne me kya hai…iska matlab ye thode hai ki sab kuch band… sale baad me bhi aish karenge…usko ghar me pata thode hee chalega…..kar letein hai shadi…..
Gal’s excuses
• Meri sari cousins’ ki shadi ho gayi Samir…Sujata ka to baby bhi 2 saal ka ho gaya… haan mom to mere peeche hee pad gayi hai… I have to get married now!!!!
• All boys are pigs…sab sale ek jaise hoten hai…. Ab to maine expect karma hee band kar diya hai… jo mom dad bolenge ussi ke sath chali jaungi….jo hoga dekha jayega!!!!

The list can be endless. Have you noticed no body is mentioning clearly about FCLS. I know I know wo to but obvious hee hai….That will anyhow come….But friends ---MENTALMASKA THOUGHT is
if suppose given a chance you get all this with or without marriage will you still want to get married.????
Aren’t our society and system changing very fast and we are realizing the core need to everything and then deciding when it to be taken or not???
I am not against the institution called Marriage but shouldn’t it be more spontaneous and need based and not last bastion for #$*#

Marriage should not be last bastion for putting all the needs together at one place and then getting the nod from the society. People are suffocating in their married lives (off course not initially). Some have decides to live with it for the sake of families, society, kids or fear of unknown and what-next?

God of States!!!..

hi....its me samir ..trying to write some of my experiences ... pls bear wid me as my writing skill is not dat gr8... though my job is of analysis only :).... living i mumbai since almost last two years odd....travelling everyday from borivli to chruchgate..almost 35 kms in local train..... wen ever a train starts a erson from behind yells "Ganpati Bappa- den almost 25-35% ppl response saying "Morya"... d eco is lounder in 2nd class... u know for d obvious reasons dey need God grace more.... wats surprising is d ppl mentality abt questioning d importance of God in different states... its our India where n no of gods rules.... in my sort life i hve see 4-5 states of India.... and have realised dat ppl hve kamal ke different opinions abt God..... wat ever u want from God and if u r in Maharastra... u should ideally go to Ganpati bhagwan..... or if u r still not satisfied den go to Sai Baba..... hey but wat abt our gr8 Hanuman nd Shiv ji etc.......never mind dey r Gods who are looking after UP and Bihar (Bhayias)..... bekar ke bhagwans u knw...... so wat abt or capital city Delhi... Jai Mata di....hai naa.... nd Kolkata to unke bina chalta hee nai ....Go to Orisaa ... half of d ppl sleep in the after noon nd thnk da God Puri will do smethng.... Mental-Maska Thot- d funny part happens wen ppl start questioning the beliefs of others saying nd believing dat my God is different from dere God.... more powerful less powerful... den policts...differences.... India me Gods have taken contract for difference states?????? is it true ??? tell me