Friendship, Companionship, Love & Sex (Four Idiots)

Please, start with a smile!!! I have selected this topic as I have personally been encountering these four idiots since last few years. There is a lot that we all know (or claim to know), feel and understand about our F.C.L.S. but confused at the same time. I am not going to define or explain any of these so called important feelings here, however just want to raise few mentalmaska thoughts that have always come in my mind and hopefully we all have come across with them at some point of time or other.

Sacrosanct Hypothesis# there is no doubt that we all need these four in our life in what ever order God blesses us.

Can anyone give weights or priorities these four in any manner or order? I don’t think it’s possible. It was always told, written and believed that girls being more emotional (well never proved) try to find and stick with someone who can deliver (sometime its tuff for guys to deliver after a hectic day schedule!! Got it) all the four in ONE MAN and boys on the other hand don’t mind MUCH in finding all four in four different people (if they are lucky enough) or in one. There must be some truth in this…Anyway, why I am writing this page is coz I have met many souls (including myself) who have been fighting to discover and come out with a clear idea of what is right and what is wrong!!!!

It goes without saying that one need opposite sex but do we are loosing that trust, that faith that we planned/imagined at some point of time read in a book or heard from our parents/movies etc!!! That so called ideology hoping everything would be fine. At this point of time everyone around me is either getting married or planning to get married very soon. Why all of a sudden this requirement came??? If we talk about 40-50 years old society the need was felt much earlier (say 20-23 years of age). Now this is perfectly ok for even a girl to get married in 27-28 years of age and if you see WESTERN countries the society is even ok for non-marriage or late marriages.

The idea that I really want to highlight here it’s not FCLS that is driving the concept of marriage. The need for marriage as envisaged earlier by the parents or society was to get a person who can fulfill all your FCLS need at one place. People want to get married – just read few lines that some people have told me –
• “Yaar abhi kitta bhi kaaam kar lo kitna bhi ghum lo per…kuch akelapaan lagta hai… koi to ho jo baat kare….soch raha hoon shadi kar loon!!!
• Samir tuu to Mumbai me hai, wo bhi akele.. koi dekhne wala nai bolne wala nai…Hum log to mom dad ke sath rahte hai….Disciplined life…ab time to milta nai business hour ke baad… to soch raha hoon shadi kar hee leta hoon!!!!
• Shadi karne me kya hai…iska matlab ye thode hai ki sab kuch band… sale baad me bhi aish karenge…usko ghar me pata thode hee chalega…..kar letein hai shadi…..
Gal’s excuses
• Meri sari cousins’ ki shadi ho gayi Samir…Sujata ka to baby bhi 2 saal ka ho gaya… haan mom to mere peeche hee pad gayi hai… I have to get married now!!!!
• All boys are pigs…sab sale ek jaise hoten hai…. Ab to maine expect karma hee band kar diya hai… jo mom dad bolenge ussi ke sath chali jaungi….jo hoga dekha jayega!!!!

The list can be endless. Have you noticed no body is mentioning clearly about FCLS. I know I know wo to but obvious hee hai….That will anyhow come….But friends ---MENTALMASKA THOUGHT is
if suppose given a chance you get all this with or without marriage will you still want to get married.????
Aren’t our society and system changing very fast and we are realizing the core need to everything and then deciding when it to be taken or not???
I am not against the institution called Marriage but shouldn’t it be more spontaneous and need based and not last bastion for #$*#

Marriage should not be last bastion for putting all the needs together at one place and then getting the nod from the society. People are suffocating in their married lives (off course not initially). Some have decides to live with it for the sake of families, society, kids or fear of unknown and what-next?